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Awareness Through Emotional Discomfort

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First published in Sibyl Magazine October 2019

It wasn’t comfortable when agitation began to stir within. Growing up those around me expressed theirs unhealthily. So, for me, I’d never allowed myself to show or feel anger, for I believed it was destructive, and the thought of projecting that towards another was soul-destroying.

Unfortunately, that wasn’t helpful because the anger imploded masked by sadness because I wasn’t freely expressing myself or felt safe to do so. In the past, occasionally it would rise like a serpent and strike. There was no stopping the rage that erupted in a swirl of euphoria as it was released. It would last only seconds. I can count the number of times on one hand that occurred. Shame and guilt followed, which caused me more grief as I buried it deeper into the recesses of my being.

It’s hard when you have denied that part of yourself to face it suddenly, yet, that’s precisely what’s needed, and I logically knew that.

When we meet something head-on, we come to realise it’s not as daunting as we’d initially thought or felt.

When acknowledged the rage lying in wait tempers, and becomes a smouldering flame ready for us to sit, listen, and heal.

Anger is a healthy emotion if expressed healthily. It’s not to be denied or pushed down. It’s an emotion that’s real and wants our attention because there’s much hurt and pain underneath.

Earlier this year, I sat with a friend, and she could hear my agitation. It had been with me all day, and it wasn’t until I openly expressed it, that I felt some relief. There had been a good reason in these past weeks why I felt that way. I’d seen my dentist for a crown, and while he was drilling my upper molar, he kept leaning an instrument against my front tooth. It had been sensitive for weeks, and I was frightened he’d caused significant damage.

The agitation initially was at him, but soon realised I was angry with myself for making only one attempt to tell him, and then resigning and putting up with it. After all, he was the expert I rationalised, but this wasn’t about him; it was about me speaking up to say STOP.

Having that realisation, I took some deep breaths down into my belly to lower my energy and anchor myself. It was then I felt calmer, and less overwhelmed by the emotion smouldering inside me.

Being grounded opened me to further clarity, and I felt self-forgiveness. This experience was a valuable lesson, one I’d ignored previously, and intended NEVER to repeat. It was time for me to value my body in all its entirety, and it deserved a voice to protect it.

Anger, when understood, is the voice that so willingly chooses to be heard. Listen to it, learn from it, and face it down to see what lies underneath, but never project it towards another. Lovingly empower yourself and shine your light upon it.

Until next time with love,

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Maria Lacey was born in Australia and has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

An award-winning author of a personal and spiritual memoir, One Path, Many Lights. Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings, and triumphs.

A successful entrepreneur with over 20 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.” Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Sound Healer, Channel, Author and Speaker.

Maria feels passionate about restoring hope into the hearts of many.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS

Whoa! It’s Christmas

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This time of year can catch up on us very quickly to find that we have less patience, feel fragmented, physically as well as emotionally stressed, and most importantly of all, we can be stretched for time. Our environment at work and at home can seem chaotic and the people around us may appear unsupportive and insensitive to our needs.

Even if you absolutely love Christmas or don’t celebrate it at all – it’s hard not to be affected … or dare I say infected.

For some, there will be times that you could pull your hair out and scream, as the relationships and planning towards a happy family Christmas start to break down causing you distress.  For others who have lost loved ones, loved ones are unwell, or you are spending Christmas on your own, you may be struggling with feelings of fatigue, grief, loss and isolation.

As you struggle, there may seem to be a loose wire that disconnects you from your inner self. That balanced and knowing part of you that knows love, compassion, generosity, celebration and happiness. You know of it, yet you just can’t seem to reconnect to it!

Your body, mind and spirit is aching for you to STOP and BREATHE and fix that loose wire, with the intent, that loving energy will flow with ease once again.

So why do we put so much pressure on ourselves whether that be emotional, physical or financial? Why can some of us feel so lost, isolated and experience so much sadness and frustration? How can we reconnect to the spirit of Christmas or even the spirit of love, our connection to Source/God?

Below I share some strategies that may support and ignite the light within, hopefully assisting you to feel lighter, happier and at peace:

  1. Breathe out and let the stress fall away. Sit down with a pen and paper and empty your thoughts and feelings onto the page. Or sit with a trusted friend, or professional counsellor, and be heard. Sometimes when we open to communicate we take the pressure off the mind and body, empowering us to see and feel with clarity and gain perspective.
  2. Look after yourself and take time out whether that be a walk in the park, a yoga class, or receive a massage, Reiki, or some other form of nurturing. Whilst in this experience be mindful of your breath, be present, and let go of the concerns around you, giving yourself permission to just BE. 
  3. Think positive thoughts – Remind yourself that your thoughts create your world. If you have thoughts that are not loving or supportive of you, say, “CANCEL, CANCEL, CANCEL”. You do know, its okay to be happy.
  4. There is great comfort in remembering those awesome moments and experiences that made your heart sing. Those memories will help to raise your vibration.
  5. Meditate daily – only ten minutes per day will have a positive effect.
  6. Know that when you feel reconnected, anchored and in your centre, the very things that upset you may seem less of an obstruction. You’re likely to feel more energised and happy, which could create a positive ripple effect especially to those close to you as they will experience the brightness of your spirit.
  7. Each day ensure that you check-in with your body and mind, and recharge and rebalance yourself regularly.

The loss of a loved one …

  1. This time of year can be very difficult. You and your family may choose to write individually on a piece of paper one of your happiest memories with that person, describing it in detail and then placing it in a beautiful gift box. Then at your family Christmas get-together, you could place your gift boxes in a basket under the Christmas tree, and during the day sit around together and one by one place your hand in the basket, pull out a gift box, and read what has been written to the rest of your family. There you can share your happy memories and tears in honour of your loved one whilst supporting each other.
  2. Lighting a candle for those that you have lost and talking to them can also bring great comfort.

Alone at Christmas …

  1. If you are alone at Christmas, you could do what I have done for many years and that is say yes to invites from friends, or you could instead treat yourself to some good food, a fun video and sit and enjoy your own time in your sanctuary, reminding yourself that it is only one day. This is a great time for meditation, contemplation and tuning out if you like. Can you tell I’m an introvert? lol.
  2. I do know of many others that have chosen to create their own special ritual at this time of year. Such as; creating an event for an orphans Christmas where you invite families or singles that may be alone and away from extended family at this time of year. Arrange to meet at a public park and set the intent that each person bring along a fun activity and food to share. I have organised one of these and it was one of my most memorable Christmas days.

Remember, that you are never alone … if you believe in angels, guides, God and many other benevolent beings, know that they are always with you. Take the time, and openly share with them. Ask them to support you.

They may send you little signs such as; yours or a loved one who has passed favourite song may play on the radio, white feathers may appear along your path, a gentle warm or cool breeze flowing past you. Your attention may be drawn to a particular book, or photograph, you may even sense a familiar smell that makes you feel comforted.

Most of all, if you do feel in crisis and are unable to speak with those around you. Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 (Australia).

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A Christmas Candle … Poem by Maria Lacey

A Christmas candle I light today,
May it bring an abundance of love your way.
Those in our hearts, no longer here.
May you feel their love,
So true, so dear.

Today, I remember those here and there,
And count my blessings for the love we share. 
You are the light and love within me,
Fond memories are stored for eternity.

Merry Christmas and may 2016 be filled to the brim with happiness, love, peace and prosperity.

With love and blessings,

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