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Clarity is a Great Builder of Confidence

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Clarity is a great builder of confidence. How do you feel about that statement? Does it resonate with you? Have you found when you are clear your confidence is never in question? In fact, it may not even be on your radar.

In the past few weeks, I’ve recognised that many of my clients have felt confused, overwhelmed and lacked confidence in their decision making. They expressed feeling anxious, stressed, irritable at times, and generally unhappy.

As we sat together and I listened intently to their story with an open heart. I noticed as each client processed with greater understanding, their body would sit up straighter, shoulders no longer slumped and what seemed difficult, overwhelming and obstructed prior, was now replaced with possibility and options.

Once again, the light shone through as I witnessed their breath drawn deeper into their body. Less in primal flight and fight mode, there was an expression of safety and being heard.

Each day, I’m thankful to be a ‘wayshower’. I’m in awe of my clients and students as they share with courage their most profound pain and desires. You inspire me. You see, I see YOU. I feel your soul and support you to reconnect with the wisdom that is within.


Clarity IS a great builder of confidence, and it’s okay to share and have someone else create a sacred space for you to be held and nurtured. You ARE awesome and unique, and I’m privileged and honoured to guide you.

Interestingly, as I sit here writing, I feel exulted as the passion rises for my purpose to restore hope into the hearts of many, and I do this through inspiring people ready for transformation through deep healing, spiritual teachings, psychological insight and of course, the written word. You see, I can relate on many levels because my journey has not always been an easy one, and although heartbreaking at times, and others magical and profound, the benefits empower me to listen and share strategies from a place of knowing.

If you are interested in gaining clarity and building your confidence, then feel comfortable contacting me for an appointment. I work both in my healing sanctuary and through skype and zoom. Remember, energy flows where your attention goes, and I can hold space no matter where you are in the world.

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Until next week,


Maria Lacey was born in Australia. She has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings and triumphs. A successful entrepreneur with over 19 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.”

Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Healer, Channel and Speaker.

Maria is currently writing her second book about her spiritual travels overseas.

For further information about the author go to:

Maria’s first book –


The Unexpected Teacher

Earlier this week I taught a Reiki Level Two certificate course.

When preparing for the day, I’m always well organised. The venue needs to be super clean (and this time it was my home), paperwork organised, food and drink sorted, and the right aromatherapy scent to create a loving sanctuary as people entered the sacred space. Oh, and I always meditate prior so that I am fully in my heart space, grounded and clear with my intention for that day.

This time, something was very different because I had Maggie, my gorgeous and lovable twelve-week-old puppy!


Well, what can I say? It rained the night beforehand, and Maggie during her trips outside to the toilet came in with copious leaves attached to her feet and fur, which fell off as she ran through my home. Then, of course, the wet paw prints on my nicely cleaned floors and the pungent smell of her wet coat. Maggie also seemed more excited than usual, and I found her naughtier than her regular puppy explorations, or at least they were bothering me more.

I found myself a little flustered but felt I didn’t have time to worry about that.

Although the day went well, and Maggie was well received and loved. I felt tense, headachy and tired at the end of the day, which was not my usual self.

I sat and reflected, and by this time Maggie was sound asleep like a beautiful and gentle little fluff ball on my lap, butter wouldn’t melt in her mouth 😉

I thought, why was I so tense? Then, I realised it was so important for me to be professional and no matter what was personally happening in my life the student’s experience was of the utmost importance. I also acknowledged I was a little concerned how Maggie would go for the full day. Now she’d been excellent with individual clients that were only one-hour appointments, but in the back of my mind, I had been worried.

I sat with that notion and then had an epiphany. I felt the same when having friends over to my home for a meal. Everything had to be perfect. Smiling, even my garden and outside area had to be spruced up. If I were caught out, I would feel rather guilty and unprepared, which would unsettle me. Hmm, that was old conditioning from my past!

I mean really! Why would a student see me as unprofessional considering they knew Maggie would be attending and openly delighted in the soon to be meeting?

Having this understanding of myself and my actions, I decided to change my thinking for the second day. My home didn’t need to be perfect, and I didn’t race around ignoring little Maggie, in fact, we had an extra-long play, enjoyed a leisurely breakfast together, and while she rested, I checked I was centred, organised and prepared for the day.


It’s hard work having a good play!

Maggie even enjoyed the quiet of sitting and meditating before the student’s arrival, which was a special time for both of us.

The day itself ran smoothly, and when I reflected that night, I felt relaxed and happy and so was Maggie. I knew that my stress and anxiousness the day beforehand had caused her to feel uncertain and stressed herself, hence the behaviour. She was a great little or should I say large and visible reflection for me to view, a beautiful and unexpected teacher.

Unprovoked, my students commented on how they loved Maggie’s presence, and her energy and how it enriched their time in learning and receiving Reiki. They also didn’t notice the occasional damp leaf Maggie carried into the house on her paws, in fact, they delighted in her antics when trying to smuggle in a stick without being noticed and the many other cute behaviours, and especially the puppy hugs.

You know, we are always learning, and we always have choices. Sometimes, we just need to be the observer of ourselves, stop for a moment, feel the discomfort and listen. Then acknowledge and feel empowered to change or let go of what doesn’t serve to love you. Smiling, it would indeed save the angst and the need for others to mirror our internal emotions. Thank you, little Maggie, love you.

After all, there is an imperfection in perfection. It’s all a matter of perception.

Until next week,


Maria Lacey was born in Australia. She has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings and triumphs. A successful entrepreneur with over 18 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.”

Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Healer, Channel and Speaker.

Maria is currently writing her second book about her spiritual travels.

For further information about the author go to:

Maria’s first book –

Whoa! It’s Christmas


This time of year can catch up on us very quickly to find that we have less patience, feel fragmented, physically as well as emotionally stressed, and most importantly of all, we can be stretched for time. Our environment at work and at home can seem chaotic and the people around us may appear unsupportive and insensitive to our needs.

Even if you absolutely love Christmas or don’t celebrate it at all – it’s hard not to be affected … or dare I say infected.

For some, there will be times that you could pull your hair out and scream, as the relationships and planning towards a happy family Christmas start to break down causing you distress.  For others who have lost loved ones, loved ones are unwell, or you are spending Christmas on your own, you may be struggling with feelings of fatigue, grief, loss and isolation.

As you struggle, there may seem to be a loose wire that disconnects you from your inner self. That balanced and knowing part of you that knows love, compassion, generosity, celebration and happiness. You know of it, yet you just can’t seem to reconnect to it!

Your body, mind and spirit is aching for you to STOP and BREATHE and fix that loose wire, with the intent, that loving energy will flow with ease once again.

So why do we put so much pressure on ourselves whether that be emotional, physical or financial? Why can some of us feel so lost, isolated and experience so much sadness and frustration? How can we reconnect to the spirit of Christmas or even the spirit of love, our connection to Source/God?

Below I share some strategies that may support and ignite the light within, hopefully assisting you to feel lighter, happier and at peace:

  1. Breathe out and let the stress fall away. Sit down with a pen and paper and empty your thoughts and feelings onto the page. Or sit with a trusted friend, or professional counsellor, and be heard. Sometimes when we open to communicate we take the pressure off the mind and body, empowering us to see and feel with clarity and gain perspective.
  2. Look after yourself and take time out whether that be a walk in the park, a yoga class, or receive a massage, Reiki, or some other form of nurturing. Whilst in this experience be mindful of your breath, be present, and let go of the concerns around you, giving yourself permission to just BE. 
  3. Think positive thoughts – Remind yourself that your thoughts create your world. If you have thoughts that are not loving or supportive of you, say, “CANCEL, CANCEL, CANCEL”. You do know, its okay to be happy.
  4. There is great comfort in remembering those awesome moments and experiences that made your heart sing. Those memories will help to raise your vibration.
  5. Meditate daily – only ten minutes per day will have a positive effect.
  6. Know that when you feel reconnected, anchored and in your centre, the very things that upset you may seem less of an obstruction. You’re likely to feel more energised and happy, which could create a positive ripple effect especially to those close to you as they will experience the brightness of your spirit.
  7. Each day ensure that you check-in with your body and mind, and recharge and rebalance yourself regularly.

The loss of a loved one …

  1. This time of year can be very difficult. You and your family may choose to write individually on a piece of paper one of your happiest memories with that person, describing it in detail and then placing it in a beautiful gift box. Then at your family Christmas get-together, you could place your gift boxes in a basket under the Christmas tree, and during the day sit around together and one by one place your hand in the basket, pull out a gift box, and read what has been written to the rest of your family. There you can share your happy memories and tears in honour of your loved one whilst supporting each other.
  2. Lighting a candle for those that you have lost and talking to them can also bring great comfort.

Alone at Christmas …

  1. If you are alone at Christmas, you could do what I have done for many years and that is say yes to invites from friends, or you could instead treat yourself to some good food, a fun video and sit and enjoy your own time in your sanctuary, reminding yourself that it is only one day. This is a great time for meditation, contemplation and tuning out if you like. Can you tell I’m an introvert? lol.
  2. I do know of many others that have chosen to create their own special ritual at this time of year. Such as; creating an event for an orphans Christmas where you invite families or singles that may be alone and away from extended family at this time of year. Arrange to meet at a public park and set the intent that each person bring along a fun activity and food to share. I have organised one of these and it was one of my most memorable Christmas days.

Remember, that you are never alone … if you believe in angels, guides, God and many other benevolent beings, know that they are always with you. Take the time, and openly share with them. Ask them to support you.

They may send you little signs such as; yours or a loved one who has passed favourite song may play on the radio, white feathers may appear along your path, a gentle warm or cool breeze flowing past you. Your attention may be drawn to a particular book, or photograph, you may even sense a familiar smell that makes you feel comforted.

Most of all, if you do feel in crisis and are unable to speak with those around you. Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 (Australia).

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A Christmas Candle … Poem by Maria Lacey

A Christmas candle I light today,
May it bring an abundance of love your way.
Those in our hearts, no longer here.
May you feel their love,
So true, so dear.

Today, I remember those here and there,
And count my blessings for the love we share. 
You are the light and love within me,
Fond memories are stored for eternity.

Merry Christmas and may 2016 be filled to the brim with happiness, love, peace and prosperity.

With love and blessings,