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Awareness Through Emotional Discomfort

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First published in Sibyl Magazine October 2019

It wasn’t comfortable when agitation began to stir within. Growing up those around me expressed theirs unhealthily. So, for me, I’d never allowed myself to show or feel anger, for I believed it was destructive, and the thought of projecting that towards another was soul-destroying.

Unfortunately, that wasn’t helpful because the anger imploded masked by sadness because I wasn’t freely expressing myself or felt safe to do so. In the past, occasionally it would rise like a serpent and strike. There was no stopping the rage that erupted in a swirl of euphoria as it was released. It would last only seconds. I can count the number of times on one hand that occurred. Shame and guilt followed, which caused me more grief as I buried it deeper into the recesses of my being.

It’s hard when you have denied that part of yourself to face it suddenly, yet, that’s precisely what’s needed, and I logically knew that.

When we meet something head-on, we come to realise it’s not as daunting as we’d initially thought or felt.

When acknowledged the rage lying in wait tempers, and becomes a smouldering flame ready for us to sit, listen, and heal.

Anger is a healthy emotion if expressed healthily. It’s not to be denied or pushed down. It’s an emotion that’s real and wants our attention because there’s much hurt and pain underneath.

Earlier this year, I sat with a friend, and she could hear my agitation. It had been with me all day, and it wasn’t until I openly expressed it, that I felt some relief. There had been a good reason in these past weeks why I felt that way. I’d seen my dentist for a crown, and while he was drilling my upper molar, he kept leaning an instrument against my front tooth. It had been sensitive for weeks, and I was frightened he’d caused significant damage.

The agitation initially was at him, but soon realised I was angry with myself for making only one attempt to tell him, and then resigning and putting up with it. After all, he was the expert I rationalised, but this wasn’t about him; it was about me speaking up to say STOP.

Having that realisation, I took some deep breaths down into my belly to lower my energy and anchor myself. It was then I felt calmer, and less overwhelmed by the emotion smouldering inside me.

Being grounded opened me to further clarity, and I felt self-forgiveness. This experience was a valuable lesson, one I’d ignored previously, and intended NEVER to repeat. It was time for me to value my body in all its entirety, and it deserved a voice to protect it.

Anger, when understood, is the voice that so willingly chooses to be heard. Listen to it, learn from it, and face it down to see what lies underneath, but never project it towards another. Lovingly empower yourself and shine your light upon it.

Until next time with love,

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Maria Lacey was born in Australia and has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

An award-winning author of a personal and spiritual memoir, One Path, Many Lights. Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings, and triumphs.

A successful entrepreneur with over 20 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.” Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Sound Healer, Channel, Author and Speaker.

Maria feels passionate about restoring hope into the hearts of many.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS

Feeling into Life

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First published in Sibyl Magazine September 2019

There comes a time in our healing journey when we have enough awareness to FEEL into our life to create it.

What do I mean by that? It’s following the quiet voice of our heart and knowing the difference between our head and heart. In this ‘feeling space,’ past fears do not influence, its simplicity at its purest. It’s the connection of our heart and soul, leading us through love into self-discovery, adventure, curiosity, gratitude, and living and appreciating life in each moment.

It’s very different from our emotion for our emotion is connected to our ego and emotional body influenced by events in our life and can be erratic and fluctuate. It’s also not our physical mind for our mind is connected to our limited life experience. Imagine each experience made up of an event, emotion and belief placed in a file. Through our day, all of those files work in the background of our subconscious. They steer our way through default settings designed to protect us, yet, those very protections shape our future. Sometimes, these are wonderful, other times, patterns are repeated that undermine our happiness.

In March this year, I wrote an article titled, ‘Birthing New and Profound Love‘. In that article, I shared, “A deep longing poked its head out, something hidden for a long time. You see, I longed to be in a loving relationship, and was now ready to invite my partner into my life.”

Near the end of May, this man walked into my life. They say, “Be careful what you wish for.” It’s so true because our mind and past experience and the emotions connected to those can be as fresh today as they were yesterday. How quickly that mind can speak of past hurts and fears. How easy it would have been to listen and sabotage a new beginning, but I was not the woman of my past. I’d healed much and gained more. So, I decided to lean into my feeling. I focused my attention into my heart centre and felt into it. I was surprised because the feeling was powerful and spoke louder than my head chatter.

It was loving and peaceful, and said, “Maria flow with it, feel into it, be happy, and trust.”

From that day, I’ve flowed with my feeling and listened to the voice of my heart. There has been profound happiness, laughter and detachment from the outcome. Where ever this is going is not as important as to what FEELS TRUE NOW!

In life, we can be as free as we choose. Our physical mind and emotional body are essential, although influenced by the sum of our experience. Our heart and soul connection flows in alignment with our path and connects through our heart centre.

There is profound wisdom, and you have access to it. Your soul is filled with love and wishes you to expand and grow.

TRUST in your soul to lead and keep it simple. Don’t question but flow, and feel the peaceful stirrings of your heart.

Love you, namaste

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Maria Lacey was born in Australia and has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

An award-winning author of a personal and spiritual memoir, One Path, Many Lights. Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings, and triumphs.

A successful entrepreneur with over 20 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.” Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Sound Healer, Channel, Author and Speaker.

Maria feels passionate about restoring hope into the hearts of many.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS

A Simple Path

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First published in Sibyl Magazine May 2019

There’s a purpose to all that we do whether that be consciously or unconsciously.

How many times have we driven the same route to work and found ourselves entering the carpark not remembering the journey along the way? In fact, we do that often with simple tasks in our lives that have become habitual.

Of late, I’ve noticed I’m more aware of what I’m doing or saying at that moment. What had changed for me? All I can say is that it was a choice, a conscious one. I desired to breathe in the gift of life and allow it to support, encourage and guide me. I no longer wished to go through my day unconsciously without experiencing the delight, meaning and purpose by being present in my life.

Choosing to be present gifted me the opportunity to process and gain understanding and wisdom in the here and now.

It stopped the unhealthy mind chatter and soaking up of energy that stilted my path by ignoring my feelings, and body, that spoke gently to inspire action for self-love and self-care. Through this understanding, I’ve found life much simpler, and remarkably I’ve embraced my voice and speak it with more clarity and strength. I just love that! In fact,

I’m enjoying life with so much gratitude that my heart sings more often than weeping.

We each have a story in our lives, one that seems to underline or undermine us. It’s associated with the past, and often we don’t even realise we’re re-enacting it daily in our actions, and how we vocalise and interact with ourselves and others, similar to driving our car unconsciously. When we begin to listen to and understand our story, we can choose to make a concerted effort to change, heal, release and move it to where it belongs, in the past.

Listen intently to your words whether they are verbalised out loud, in your head or written down. This awareness will have you as your own counsel and guide your way. Take notice, breathe deeply, ingest each moment as if it were your last. Slow down your thoughts and body so you may feel into each and every event in your life.

It’s so easy to hear and see others but not always ourselves.

I’ve come to appreciate the more grounded I am, the more aware I am at seeing clearly my actions and witnessing my emotion and communication.

Life is a playground of learning, and we complicate it so much by not being present in our lives. The undercurrent, unconscious beliefs and behaviours don’t always serve us.

We, yes, we, have the power to embrace the present, open our awareness and relax into the simplicity it offers.

Don’t let your unconscious behaviours rule your present happiness for you are a child of light gifted with free-will to empower choice in your life.

Choose presence in your life and know the gift of love will surely guide your actions.

Love you, until next time

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Maria Lacey was born in Australia and has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

An award-winning author of a personal and spiritual memoir, One Path, Many Lights. Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings, and triumphs.

A successful entrepreneur with over 20 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.” Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Sound Healer, Channel, Author and Speaker.

Maria feels passionate about restoring hope into the hearts of many.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS

The Gift of the Messenger

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First Published in Sibyl Magazine November 2018

There are events in our life that transpire to open us to deep and soulful healing, and this was one of them.

Within my heart of hearts, I’d wished for that day to come, and it did. I was meeting with someone I’d loved all their life and had been estranged from for some years. We met for only a short hour, but then, all came crashing down, and my heart cracked open leaving a huge crevice.

Initially, the hurt and pain were intense. So much so, in glimpses, I’d felt helpless and without hope. The event wasn’t the cause it was the catalyst that triggered multiple traumas I’d endured and had shelved, which flooded into my consciousness. The overwhelming emotion felt stuck. I could feel the tidal wave within, but I’d gone numb, and in shock, my mind froze, until, I chose consciously to release and allow the healing to begin.

That was a pivotal moment, and enlightening choice for it generated an outpouring of love and gratitude for that person because she was the ONE. The messenger, the gift.

It was time to set myself free, and I gave myself permission to TRULY heal those traumas. Several months later my relationship with that person opened like a lotus with such purity and renewal, and a new beginning was now possible.

Things had changed because I’d changed. Patterns had altered and were still in their adjustment stage. Supportive and loving beliefs had embedded within my consciousness, and the subconscious limiting beliefs and sabotaging habits had been cleared and re-set.

Through a profound awareness, I witnessed consciously my actions, thoughts and movement moment by moment, and day by day. I sensed my healing and the newness forming, but I noticed unconscious patterns and how quickly I reverted to the previous default behaviour. Yes, just like our computer settings we do have subconscious defaults.

In those moments I stopped midstream and felt within, and my realisations came quickly and with acknowledgement and understanding. I didn’t berate myself, in fact, I congratulated myself for the recognition and then felt empowered to choose between the old way of being and the new and more conscious way.

The old way, had me moving through life in survival mode. It was understandable because the innocence of the child was taken so young through physical abuse, manipulation and narcissism. The realisation was that even though, she was an intelligent, compassionate child of the stars she had never felt good enough and worthy, which filtered into her adult life. It undermined her growth and happiness with busyness, doing and should.

The new conscious way, I felt empowered, good enough, and worthy. It motivated me to thrive and to create through love, SELF-LOVE.

Simplicity, gratitude and a soft focus are my way forward. Each movement, I ask, “Is this loving me?” For I now walk with purpose upon this earth with a renewed passion to restore hope into the hearts of many. Including mine.

Until next week,

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Maria Lacey was born in Australia and has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

The author of a personal and spiritual memoir, One Path, Many Lights. Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings, and triumphs.

A successful entrepreneur with over 19 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.” Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Sound Healer, Channel, Author and Speaker.

Maria feels passionate about restoring hope into the hearts of many.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS

When Sumbody Loves Me…

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I know, you are probably thinking, what does she mean by sumbody? I have to honestly say, as I was receiving the inspiration to write this article, I also thought the same. In moments like these, I just flow with it and hopefully as I share, it will become more evident.

Quite some years ago when my marriage ended, I became very ill with pneumonia. I was in shock and distressed and found it difficult to talk about because I felt ashamed and a failure.  Having two young children aged four and eight, I knew I had to be strong, but being strong wasn’t enough!

By trapping my emotion inside of me, I became ill. So ill, that when a friend dropped in to see me I passed out as I opened the front door.

Although it was difficult at the time, I worked through it, and as time went on, life became happy and normal once again. Surprisingly, over the next four years, I got bronchitis, which I have to say knocked me down for ten days at a time, and I wondered why.

This particular day my daughter who was only eight, said,

“Mum you always get sick this time of the year. Isn’t that when daddy left?”
Ka-Ching!! Yes, it was. OMG out of the mouths of babes such wisdom flows.

I often had, although unconsciously stated to others, “it’s okay because I always get sick this time of year.” Even my self-talk had supported the past event by creating an expectation. Surprisingly most people are speaking out, often completely unaware that what they are saying relates to the previous trauma as if it was an unconscious thought being expressed out loud, yet the conscious-self does not acknowledge the initial reason. I know I certainly didn’t.

Maybe some of you are experiencing your light-bulb moment right now, for this is what we call cellular memory! Each cell is alive, and I believe that they hold the physical DNA as well as the spiritual and emotional energies including the memories.

I believe it’s time for us to become more aware and mindful, and listen to our body, mind, and spirit. Smiling, now I get it!

Listen to the SUM of my whole body. Sum meaning, the amount or whole of any numbers or particulars added together. The Mind, Body, and Spirit as a WHOLE!

Each cell holds memory and if you feel some discomfort go within and check-in with your body, and ask yourself. Is this current distress related to a past trauma? Wait and listen because your cells have a voice and if you are patient you will hear.

Then acknowledge it, and remember that knowledge is power.  Then allow it to fall away for it no longer serves you. If it is difficult to let go, ask yourself this question; Is this loving me?

If not, then you are not losing something, you are gaining something. Why would you hold onto something that causes you pain and suffering?

So, release it, and then fill the space in your cells with love and light. Immediately, you will have commenced the process of forming new memory within your cells. All expansive, bright, and loving, creating harmony in your inner and outer world. As your cells multiply, the old impressions of the past will soon fade, and the new will be stronger and more loving of you.

So that you know since that day my daughter opened my eyes, I have not had bronchitis or been unwell around the anniversary of my marriage separation.

I often share with my clients and students how vital it is to love yourself more, be the observer, and be mindful of your self-talk, and know that sumbody does love you 😊

In chapter 29 of my book One Path, Many Lights called Present Moment Awareness; I found my wiser and loving-self reciting the below after a time of new understanding, I trust it resonates with you:

I love my body,

My body loves me.

We listen to and support each other.

We are in perfect harmony and balance.

Until next week,

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Maria Lacey was born in Australia. She has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings and triumphs. A successful entrepreneur with over 18 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.”

Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Healer, Channel and Speaker.

Maria is currently writing her second book about her spiritual travels overseas.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS

Friggin Writer’s Block

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My head made me say it. FRIG, FRIG, FRIG, FRIG, FRIG

Am I allowed to write this?

Well, today I don’t care. I have a headache because the pressure in my head is so intense that if I could fart from it, I would, just to relieve the stress.

I get up from my desk and walk around the house in a blur.

Now in the kitchen, there is an emptiness in the pit of my stomach that desperately screams out to be filled. My head interrupts and says, “You’re going to be like the side of a house if you keep this up.”

I fill the kettle turn it on then find myself piling nuts and dried fruit into a container and telling myself at least that’s a better option than the thick layer of butter and peanut butter on toast I was initially salivating.

I begin stuffing them into my mouth as to fill a void that is insatiable. Oh no far too much too quickly, and the undigested and partially eaten fruit and nuts are piling up in my oesophagus unable to reach the stomach for digestion causing significant discomfort.

I don’t like the idea of vomiting.

Quick I reach for a glass and fill it with water to wash it all down. Initially, there is much pain as the water tries to dislodge the mass.

Gently, gently Maria one small sip at a time you can’t FORCE IT.

Ah, then relief as the blockage is cleared. I take a breath feeling thankful.

Just then the kettle sounds releasing copious amounts of steam, hmm that was timely.

My brain again begins searching for the words, ideas and inspiration for my article today. I shake my head, and oh that hurt! I roll my shoulders up and back releasing the tension, and then freely move my neck from side to side. Ah, that feels much better.

I walk into my lounge, and looking at the window I’m drawn outside to the glistening concrete driveway, it’s raining, and I hadn’t even noticed. I’m enamoured by the beauty of the foliage; crisp shades of green, and droplets of rain appearing like sparkling diamonds as they gently rested on the leaves. The grey trunk has blackened with the wetness of the rain leaving uneven vertical lines near the base as the water drips down to the roots.  The sun breaks through the clouds and the leaves shimmer making me smile.

I find myself taking a deep breath and sighing as I breathe out. Now that feels great. I move my body, and all the tension has released, AND, yes you know it. I found the idea and inspiration for my article, or should I say, the idea found me 😉

Trust you enjoyed reading my article today. Haha, love, love, love sharing.

Until next week,

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Maria Lacey was born in Australia. She has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings and triumphs. A successful entrepreneur with over 18 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.”

Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Healer, Channel and Speaker.

Maria is currently writing her second book about her spiritual travels overseas.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS

 

Perception – Do We See the Same Thing?

PerceptionEyeThe dictionary’s meaning of Perception:

  1. A) The ability to see, hear or become aware of something through the senses
  2. B) The way in which something is regarded understood or interpreted.

Do we see the same thing? Interesting question … Have you ever looked up at the sky and noticed a shape in the clouds such as a rabbit or angel? While in awe at that amazing sight you share this with your friend standing next to you and they nod absently seemingly disinterested because they can’t see it.

Or, you’re walking through the bush and notice a scent that you just love and ask your friend, “Can you smell that?” You find a blank look on their face as if you’re talking about aliens standing on the path ahead.

These are two simple examples, but in life, there can be major misunderstandings created because of the different perceptions of the individuals involved often causing conflict and frustration.

In psychology, we talk about a frame of reference. Tversky, A. And Kahneman, D (1981) explained it like this; A frame of reference is a complex set of assumptions and attitudes which we use to filter perceptions to create meaning. The frame can include beliefs, schemas, preferences, values, culture and other ways in which we bias our understanding and judgement.

Let’s go back to the rabbit shaped cloud in the sky. What if you held up your arm and pointed your finger towards the shape you saw and asked your friend to place their hand over yours as you drew it in the air? Do you think they would see what you see? Yes, they would and would forever more see shapes in the clouds because you took your time to show them.

Now let’s look at that lovely scent in the bush. In Australia, we have the eucalyptus gum tree, and the leaves smell just like eucalyptus. What if you pulled a leaf off the branch and scrunched it in your hand and then smelt it and encouraged your friend to do the same. Would you feel you have increased their awareness and possibly opened them to experience the beautiful scents as they walked in nature? I’d say yes.

Now there will be some situations where no matter how you communicate the other person will have dug in their heels and will not want to see your perspective. You may have even found yourself in the same situation standing there righteously claiming your truth. I know that I have!

Through a recent personal experience, I wondered why a particular person was avoiding me. I called them and asked, “What’s going on for you, please tell me because I care and love you?” I then listened to what she had to say without interruption for the next fifteen minutes.

Hearing her initially, I was in shock, really that’s what you thought happened. None of what the other person stated resonated. In fact, I felt my body reject it immediately. That person believed they stood in their truth as I knew I was in mine.  We both had an entirely different perception.

There’s a saying about walking in someone else’s shoes… it can help, but there will be times that you may have to agree to disagree or walk away.

It’s a matter of how important that person or situation is, and it’s not about conceding, gloating or feeling frustrated. It’s about compassion for the other knowing that we all have our unique frame of reference, and then having confidence in your truth and intent, and feeling peaceful in that.

Often, I have used my body as the barometer. If it reacts with a complete rejection of the initial statement, then I know this is not true and real for me. If there’s a hesitation, then maybe there’s something in that person’s perception of the situation that I need to look at carefully.

I trust you have enjoyed my blog post.

Until next week,

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Maria Lacey was born in Australia. She has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings and triumphs. A successful entrepreneur with over 18 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.”

Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Healer, Channel and Speaker.

Maria is currently writing her second book about her spiritual travels.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS