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The Journey Through to Love

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First published in Sibyl Magazine November 2019

People come into our life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Each has its purpose and opportunity for growth.

In my article, ‘Feeling into Life‘ I shared how I’d opened to love and invited a partner into my life. I mentioned how easy it was for past fears to crawl into the present, but I’d grown and was not the woman of my past. I’d made a conscious choice to surrender and ‘feel into’ this relationship. This rewarded me with strength and clarity as I heard clearly the voice of my heart as it said.

“Maria flow with it, feel into it, be happy, and trust.”

Little did I know what that exactly meant. For it wasn’t about trusting this man, or trust in the relationship with this man. It was about TRUSTING MYSELF! Yes, believing I was safe and could express and communicate with confidence my feelings, needs, wants and dreams.

Red flags were highlighted as they flashed like neon lights to offer me guidance. They were an opportunity to question, reflect, feel into my body and heal any uncomfortable emotions that may have arisen from my past. Also, to note when they weren’t mine and lovingly voice if required.

God bought me a man who made me laugh, showed me that I’m a kind, loving and compassionate woman, and was ready and worthy of great love and a companion to share my life.

God also showed me how far I’d healed that broken child who had her power taken away many times, which caused her grief, loss, confusion and despair. She no longer quivered inside when anger was projected at her. She was able to shield herself, detach from taking on someone else’s pain and lovingly hold the energy for them.

I remembered saying, “Where ever this is going is not as important as to what FEELS TRUE NOW!”

In this relationship, I remained grounded in the present and true to myself. I observed each experience with curiosity, compassion and love. My soul led the way, and I listened and did not question its purpose for I was fully flowing. Every choice was made to honour and love myself for in doing so, my heart opened like a lotus, pure and free.

This relationship tested me, and I celebrate today the gifts given. We are no longer together. Ahh, it was for a season and a reason, and what an amazing ride it was. This journey healed further many of my past relationships. It showed my inner child and me I could stand in my power with grace, strength and peace. My fears dissipated and opened me further into self-love and freedom.

By sharing my journey, I want to challenge you to LOVE YOURSELF MORE. Recall your power from those you have given it away to and breathe life into your dreams. For you are truly worthy of great love. It all begins with you.

Love you x

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Maria Lacey was born in Australia and has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

An award-winning author of a personal and spiritual memoir, One Path, Many Lights. Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings, and triumphs.

A successful entrepreneur with over 20 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.” Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Sound Healer, Channel, Author and Speaker.

Maria feels passionate about restoring hope into the hearts of many.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS

Returning Home

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And she said goodbye as she walked away with a smile.
No longer chained to her past
No longer carrying her pain
She had returned home to the soft comfort of her heart

Until next time, with love and blessings,

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Maria Lacey was born in Australia and has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

An award-winning author of a personal and spiritual memoir, One Path, Many Lights. Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings, and triumphs.

A successful entrepreneur with over 20 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.” Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Sound Healer, Channel, Author and Speaker.

Maria feels passionate about restoring hope into the hearts of many.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS

Birthing New and Profound Love

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First published in Sibyl Magazine March 2019

The energy this year is so much lighter. I felt the shift as 2018 closed, and 2019 opened. It felt like I’d risen from the muddy water into the sunshine. My heart began to sing and my energy and health aligned, and life flowed from one synchronistic moment to another.  Have you felt it?

Being in flow fanned the flame for my passion for writing, speaking and performing, and I stepped up fully onto my path, my destiny. My shadow no longer encroached and shaded my light, for life had more meaning and excitement than ever before.

A balanced life was the key as I honoured my time and who I shared that with.

Life became like a tantalising delicious sweet, and I wanted to explore all of it. A deep longing poked its head out, something hidden for a long time. You see, I longed to be in a loving relationship, and was now ready to invite my partner into my life. We’d met in my dreams many times, and it had been many years since I’d felt a loving man’s arms wrapped around me and felt the strength of his body. I wanted to explore intimacy once again in a loving, respectful relationship.

What had changed for me to allow that longing to emerge? My heart was full of self-love and the actioning of my own healing in the past year had loosened the hold I’d had on my wish for love. My truth had emerged, and I was now being honest with myself. I knew the fear I’d felt in previous relationships was now of the past, and I was a strong and empowered woman with her gentleness intact. My gentle, loving nature was not a weakness as others had tried to tell me and felt the need to protect and control. My compassion was not a weakness as others had sought to manipulate in the past. I was more grounded than ever before, a vital key to the quiet comfort felt by my body. I’m a woman in her late 50’s, and today have begun a new and profound rite of passage, the birthing of deep love.

With that birthing and loving myself unconditionally, I’ve accepted the whole of me. Each scar on my body from the birthing of my first child to the extracting of my womb is a part of my journey. Each wrinkle and line on my face is the embodiment of my emotion. Each freckle, skin discolouration, lump and bump are my uniqueness.

I AM, ALL THAT I AM, and I passionately embrace and accept the whole of me.

Through loving myself with kindness and compassion, I open to attract loving relationships. Life is simpler for there is no longing to look or be like another. For the gift is my unique self.

As women, we deserve true love and happiness. Loving yourself with passion is the key. Setting the intention and with trust and anticipation, creation begins, and the universe participates.

With love,

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Maria Lacey was born in Australia and has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

The author of a personal and spiritual memoir, One Path, Many Lights. Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings, and triumphs.

A successful entrepreneur with over 20 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.” Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Sound Healer, Channel, Author and Speaker.

Maria feels passionate about restoring hope into the hearts of many.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS

Hot Flushes – Get Me Out Of Here!

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Sundays, a day I usually put aside for relaxing while I enjoy a leisurely breakfast dressed in my pyjamas. No rushing, just the pleasure that I can look like scary Mary for as long as I choose, providing of course I’m not caught by someone knocking on my front door. Then, I might giggle afterwards as to the surprised and sometimes shocked look by the person that stood there.  I could tell you many stories of being caught, which I have to admit are hilarious, embarrassing and downright memorable, but today we will have to stick to the subject Hot Flushes – Get Me Out of Here.

This particular Sunday I woke at 6.30am feeling on top of the world. I got up, put some washing on, enjoyed my breakfast of cooked quinoa with a little maple syrup, some goat’s milk and a dollop of Greek yoghurt, and then enthusiastically began cleaning my house. Now I know I said I put aside Sundays for relaxing, yet surprisingly the result of seeing my house clean, was very relaxing for me. I’m sure there has to be others like me out there. Finished! I paused, it smelt and looked great, now to a nurturing and cleansing shower, then dressed and ready to appreciate the rest of my day.

When you work from home it’s a breath of fresh air to go out and have a coffee or lunch somewhere, and a change of scenery can inspire the creativity and help replenish your energy.

Now looking and feeling good I decided to pop into my local shopping centre. There’s a nice little café that had scrumptious gluten free muffins and a good soy latte. The staff were always welcoming, and I could sit in a corner on a comfy chair and not feel pressured to leave. Bliss

Having parked, collected my mail on the way in and ordered my soy latte and muffin, I’d sat down to relax and write. Now half way through my muffin and enjoying my cuppa I looked up from writing and …

A rush of energy erupted through my neck and face, creating a bright cherry red, and my face felt as if it was on fire. Oh no … a burst of perspiration exploded from every pore in my body …. If only I could tear off my top!

Realising I only had a bra underneath, this was not an option. I looked around to see if anyone had noticed. I talked silently to myself, okay, I won’t drink any more hot coffee, and Maria take your time and enjoy your muffin. I took another bite, see it’s not as bad as you think. Beads of sweat trickled down my face and in-between my breasts. My skin burnt against my clothes and the chair felt hot and uncomfortable. I’d hoped that when I got up it hadn’t left a pool of water, or worse still a sweaty wet patch on my behind. I touched my forearm and it was clammy, my underarms felt soaked. I thought to myself, Oh good Maria this is just great! Okay now breathe. But breathing did not ease the heat, nor the anxious feeling rising within my chest not unlike pins and needles.

Alright, get up slowly and head for the door….. it’s okay, no one will notice you….. once outside and in some fresh air, you will be fine.

I packed up my things sadly looking at the barely drunk coffee and half eaten muffin and thought to myself, it doesn’t matter, you didn’t need it anyway. Don’t we justify beautifully.  I’m on my way through the shopping centre feeling quiet exposed and vulnerable. I stopped at a dress store to hide behind a rack of clothes as I indiscreetly blew up my face to cool myself down, my fringe moved with the rush of air. My eyes searched for a mirror to check the back of my trousers.

I started to feel a little better and glanced to my side to see this elderly lady sitting on a nearby bench smiling at me. You know with that knowing smile. I whispered, menopause, she smiled and said, “Yes I know dear, been there and done that.” All of a sudden the body now screams out, THANK YOU, someone understands, and then responds with an almighty hot flush just to confirm! My eyes quickly darted around searching for an escape. I hastily nodded with acknowledgement to the lady, and with as much dignity as I could muster, I raced towards the double doors trusting that they would open quickly and allow me to GET OUT!!

In the safety of my car, I wound down the windows, put on the air, felt the breeze on my face and laughed…. oh did I laugh. Why did I laugh so much?  Because my experience flashed in front of me like a movie, and all of a sudden it looked quiet comical.

Now some of you may be thinking, thank goodness I’m not anywhere near menopause or I’m a man and I don’t get menopause. For those females that are not there yet, your time will come. It is a rite of passage that we all flow through, and some of us easier than others. For those men shaking their heads; if you are in a relationship with a female, have a mother, sister or female friend, it might be worth your while doing a little research to gain an understanding of a woman’s hormonal changes, which can affect us and YOU in many ways.

It’s interesting the word chosen for this rite of passage – MEN O PAUSE – hmmm I wonder whether that means anything.

Later that day I was talking with an elderly male friend and, he kindly said to me,

“Maria it’s only a power surge.”

The sound of that word, power surge, saw me visualise myself with an enormous light illuminating from within. It connected me to my inner strength and my feminine power, and this time my body did not choose to respond with a sudden burst of heat. It felt empowered and I felt proud to be a woman, hot flushes and all.

Trust you have enjoyed reading my article and I look forward to your feedback.

Until next time,

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