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The Journey Through to Love

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First published in Sibyl Magazine November 2019

People come into our life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Each has its purpose and opportunity for growth.

In my article, ‘Feeling into Life‘ I shared how I’d opened to love and invited a partner into my life. I mentioned how easy it was for past fears to crawl into the present, but I’d grown and was not the woman of my past. I’d made a conscious choice to surrender and ‘feel into’ this relationship. This rewarded me with strength and clarity as I heard clearly the voice of my heart as it said.

“Maria flow with it, feel into it, be happy, and trust.”

Little did I know what that exactly meant. For it wasn’t about trusting this man, or trust in the relationship with this man. It was about TRUSTING MYSELF! Yes, believing I was safe and could express and communicate with confidence my feelings, needs, wants and dreams.

Red flags were highlighted as they flashed like neon lights to offer me guidance. They were an opportunity to question, reflect, feel into my body and heal any uncomfortable emotions that may have arisen from my past. Also, to note when they weren’t mine and lovingly voice if required.

God bought me a man who made me laugh, showed me that I’m a kind, loving and compassionate woman, and was ready and worthy of great love and a companion to share my life.

God also showed me how far I’d healed that broken child who had her power taken away many times, which caused her grief, loss, confusion and despair. She no longer quivered inside when anger was projected at her. She was able to shield herself, detach from taking on someone else’s pain and lovingly hold the energy for them.

I remembered saying, “Where ever this is going is not as important as to what FEELS TRUE NOW!”

In this relationship, I remained grounded in the present and true to myself. I observed each experience with curiosity, compassion and love. My soul led the way, and I listened and did not question its purpose for I was fully flowing. Every choice was made to honour and love myself for in doing so, my heart opened like a lotus, pure and free.

This relationship tested me, and I celebrate today the gifts given. We are no longer together. Ahh, it was for a season and a reason, and what an amazing ride it was. This journey healed further many of my past relationships. It showed my inner child and me I could stand in my power with grace, strength and peace. My fears dissipated and opened me further into self-love and freedom.

By sharing my journey, I want to challenge you to LOVE YOURSELF MORE. Recall your power from those you have given it away to and breathe life into your dreams. For you are truly worthy of great love. It all begins with you.

Love you x

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Maria Lacey was born in Australia and has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

An award-winning author of a personal and spiritual memoir, One Path, Many Lights. Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings, and triumphs.

A successful entrepreneur with over 20 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.” Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Sound Healer, Channel, Author and Speaker.

Maria feels passionate about restoring hope into the hearts of many.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS

Six Simple Strategies to Ease Worry

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Worry can be a terrible waste of our time and energy.

Worry creates anxiety, distress, panic, lack of sleep, mental suffering and horrible and uncomfortable feelings within the body. You may find yourself consumed, every thought quenching the life from your very veins. Your life force energy spirals out as you disconnect from reality and become ungrounded in your own thoughts. Worry is fear in action.

Three years ago, I had a near-death experience in Bali. I had travelled alone, and when they found me in my cottage, I was barely conscious, severely dehydrated, and had pneumonia, but not just that, I was infected by the dengue virus which had been diagnosed four days earlier. I was rushed by ambulance to a hospital in Denpasar.

After many days, I was discharged from the hospital and had to go back to that little cottage near Ubud until I had the ‘fit for fly’ certificate from my doctors. Initially, I had loved that place and planned to stay for three months. BUT the thought of going back into that cottage caused me distress. I felt panic inside, and all I wanted to do was run, run back home to Australia and be in the comfort of my own home. I was afraid I’d be bitten by another infected mosquito, and my thoughts weren’t helping.

If you have ever experienced worry in your life, I’d love to offer you some simple strategies and practices that may help. They certainly assisted me.

1.   Ground yourself –

Stand, legs apart, knees flexible and place your hands on your belly and breathe deeply in through your nose and down into your lower abdomen and feel it inflate. This area is your seat of power, the sacral chakra, the balance of masculine and feminine. Breathe out slowly with a gentle sigh through your mouth noticing the abdomen deflate. Do these steps three times with your eyes open.

Now, with hands still on your belly breathe deeply into the lower abdomen and when you breathe out, bring your attention to your feet. Imagine your outward breath flowing down through your feet into the earth as roots form digging deeper through the soil connecting you to Mother Earth. Do these steps three times with your eyes open.

2.   Change your Thought –

Remind yourself that worry only creates from a fearful place, and really do you want to be frightened. I recommend that when you have negative thoughts take-action and say, “Delete, Delete, Delete.” If they are too consistent turn away physically in a different direction and think of gratitude and appreciation of one small thing in your life.

For example, it could be something as simple as; I’m grateful to be alive, or, I’m thankful for my friends and family (this could also be your furry family), or I’m grateful because I know the Universe/God has my back. Say your gratitude three times as if you were saying a mantra and feel the energy shift from negative to positive.

3.   Self-Care –

Love is the highest form of healing and energy in creation. Nurture yourself, drink plenty of water, and eat nutritious, tasty food, and move your body.

Choose whom you spend your valuable energy and time with. Setting healthy boundaries is important.

Be gentle, kind and loving to yourself because a friendly and kind gesture creates so much more lightness in your life. After all, if you worry, you deplete your own life-force and how can you then support yourself or another if you have very little energy to do so.

4.   Reset Your Focus –

Worry scatters your energy making you ungrounded and unbalanced. Recall your power back into you and stay focused on a positive outcome. The HOW is not essential. It’s releasing and letting go of control and trusting and focusing on the NOW which is your greatest gift. Tomorrow will take care of itself.

5.   Stop the Mind Chatter –

You can do this by placing your hands in a prayer position and gently pushing your palms together. Your brain will need to investigate the pressure, and all thoughts will clear allowing you to be present. Then place both hands over your heart and say, “Thank you, thank you, thank you.” It is with gratitude I thank Dr Wayne Dyer for the idea of the three thank you’s. Having the warmth of your own hands over your heart is comforting and reconnects you to your spirit building faith and hope.

6.   Remember –

You are a survivor and through past experience will thrive once again.

Through my experience in Bali, I admit it’s not always easy, but I can reassure you that when you stop the worry and focus on this moment in a grounded, loving and nurturing way. Your perception will change, and you will feel with much light and possibility.

I’ve also learnt that every experience in life teaches us something if we take the time to reflect and heal the trauma.

Blessings,

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(This article was first published by McGill Media)

Maria Lacey was born in Australia and has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

An award-winning author of a personal and spiritual memoir, One Path, Many Lights. Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings, and triumphs.

A successful entrepreneur with over 20 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.” Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Sound Healer, Channel, Author and Speaker.

Maria feels passionate about restoring hope into the hearts of many.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS

Birthing New and Profound Love

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First published in Sibyl Magazine March 2019

The energy this year is so much lighter. I felt the shift as 2018 closed, and 2019 opened. It felt like I’d risen from the muddy water into the sunshine. My heart began to sing and my energy and health aligned, and life flowed from one synchronistic moment to another.  Have you felt it?

Being in flow fanned the flame for my passion for writing, speaking and performing, and I stepped up fully onto my path, my destiny. My shadow no longer encroached and shaded my light, for life had more meaning and excitement than ever before.

A balanced life was the key as I honoured my time and who I shared that with.

Life became like a tantalising delicious sweet, and I wanted to explore all of it. A deep longing poked its head out, something hidden for a long time. You see, I longed to be in a loving relationship, and was now ready to invite my partner into my life. We’d met in my dreams many times, and it had been many years since I’d felt a loving man’s arms wrapped around me and felt the strength of his body. I wanted to explore intimacy once again in a loving, respectful relationship.

What had changed for me to allow that longing to emerge? My heart was full of self-love and the actioning of my own healing in the past year had loosened the hold I’d had on my wish for love. My truth had emerged, and I was now being honest with myself. I knew the fear I’d felt in previous relationships was now of the past, and I was a strong and empowered woman with her gentleness intact. My gentle, loving nature was not a weakness as others had tried to tell me and felt the need to protect and control. My compassion was not a weakness as others had sought to manipulate in the past. I was more grounded than ever before, a vital key to the quiet comfort felt by my body. I’m a woman in her late 50’s, and today have begun a new and profound rite of passage, the birthing of deep love.

With that birthing and loving myself unconditionally, I’ve accepted the whole of me. Each scar on my body from the birthing of my first child to the extracting of my womb is a part of my journey. Each wrinkle and line on my face is the embodiment of my emotion. Each freckle, skin discolouration, lump and bump are my uniqueness.

I AM, ALL THAT I AM, and I passionately embrace and accept the whole of me.

Through loving myself with kindness and compassion, I open to attract loving relationships. Life is simpler for there is no longing to look or be like another. For the gift is my unique self.

As women, we deserve true love and happiness. Loving yourself with passion is the key. Setting the intention and with trust and anticipation, creation begins, and the universe participates.

With love,

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Maria Lacey was born in Australia and has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

The author of a personal and spiritual memoir, One Path, Many Lights. Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings, and triumphs.

A successful entrepreneur with over 20 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.” Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Sound Healer, Channel, Author and Speaker.

Maria feels passionate about restoring hope into the hearts of many.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS

Did I Ever Tell You – Poetry in Motion

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Did I ever tell you how much I love you
Or did you hear it in the whispering of my thoughts
I could have, would have and should have
But the time was never right.

Today, I sit in silence for your not around for me to say
I love you, I truly love you
Please don’t go away.

Was it my pride that stopped me
Or the fear and pain of my past
I love you, I really love you
And now its too late for the time has passed

But maybe you will hear my thoughts
No matter where you are
For my love, I love you, and I’m not too far

Have a blessed week.

Until next time,

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Maria Lacey was born in Australia and has travelled extensively overseas being led by visions, dreams and spiritual guidance.

The author of a personal and spiritual memoir, One Path, Many Lights. Maria writes about life (the human and spiritual path), the adversity, learning, musings, and triumphs.

A successful entrepreneur with over 19 years in her own business, Maria humorously states, “I am my greatest case study.” Maria is a qualified Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master Teacher, Spiritual Teacher, Meditation Teacher, Sound Healer, Channel, Author and Speaker.

Maria feels passionate about restoring hope into the hearts of many.

For further information about the author go to: http://www.marialacey.com.au/

Maria’s first book – https://www.amazon.com/One-Path-Many-Lights-Spiritual-ebook/dp/B00YOIOTIS